A new year is coming. Another rabbit year is coming. Thus come another cycle of people’s life. I will be 24 this year. 24 is a good number, as is other numbers.
Happy Chinese New Year to everybody! Especially those burn in the year of the rabbit! God Bless.
Career and FYP. FYP here is Finding Your Partner. Not the other FYP that we all hated and left behind.
I believe there are some sort of similarities between the two. Aside from the fact that these two things top my list of struggles, there are certain keypoints that I’d like to share that would be useful.
Both I believe, begins with YOU yourself. It’s about looking inside, and not looking out. In career, you have to look inside, to find out what’s your strength, what’s your interest, what’s your weakness, what’s your passion and what you’re capable of (not just what you THINK you are capable of). Once you find it, you can find a job that can best fit your character. The right job will come on its own. As you grow with the job you’re doing, you might realize that the job is no longer suitable for you. Maybe it’s the time where you switch to another job, or maybe go up the ladder and switch to another role (e.g, from an Engineer to a Management).
It’s the same with FYP. It’s really not about finding the one you like and returns your feeling. It’s about finding yourself, your identity, maximizing your potential, finding your place, and the right one would come on its own. Some may argue however, that we need effort. I agree with this. However my point is that, the main focus is all about finding your true calling, before trying to find your other half.
Before thinking of looking for a partner, ask yourself a question, “Am I ready?”. This is of course one of the most cliche question that everyone knows about. But think again, how deep have you ponder about this question? And have you really understand what it means? I believe it’s not about being ready financially, or biologically, or legally. It goes deeper than that. Ask this questions:
- Are you unsatisfied with what you have now? Putting aside your relationship status.
- Do you still want to explore extreme ideas? Like going to different countries, trying out different jobs, trying out different hobbies and lifestyle?
- Do you feel like spending most of your money on your own needs or wants?
- Do you feel that you need love and attention, more than you’re able to give?
- Are you still confused and not sure about what you want to be, where you want to live when you grow older, what kind of family you want to make?
- Are you still constantly searching for what values to believe in?
The list goes on and on. But if you answer “yes” to any of those questions, I’d say maybe you’re not yet “ready”. Well of course I don’t guarantee that the relationship you made under those conditions will not last, it could. But it’s definitely more of a gamble. Think of it, why does a lot of relationships that started during high school or university ended once they graduated? I believe one of the reason is that at this stage, people are still at the stage of finding their own identity, and once that identity changes, what used to be right fit might not fit anymore.
For you who have relationships that last from school days to marriage, consider yourself lucky. You might be the kind of people who can find who they are early since their school days, or the two of you really can grow together at the same direction and at the same pace.
With that, being “ready” or “mapan” is really a mindset.
Hi all,
My last post was October 2008. Such a long time indeed. 2 years 3 months to be exact. A lot of things have happened. I’m not sure if I can continue blogging, or even if anyone still visits my blog. But I remember that once, this blog was a place I can let my heart out, to record the lesson learnt from life, and to let people watch me (when you know you’re being watched, you tend to do things more carefully, to make sure it’s right – so it could be a good thing).
Anyway, looking back, reflecting on my past 2 years away from my blog, I realized that I’ve been away from communities in general. And I believe this 2 years would always be an important part of my life.
The years I was struggling with a signifcant sin.
The years I was struggling with low self-esteem, low confidence level.
The years I spent looking for what my calling is, and where God’s leading me.
The years spent away from family, friends, and loved ones.
The years I learned what love is, and what losing one means.
The years I learned of humility, that you’re nothing if not for God’s grace.
The years I learned of forgiveness, especially to those who hurt me.
The years I learned of hope. That despite all the turmoil and problems in your life, hope would always be there.
And I know looking forward, it doesn’t stops here. Problems and questions and struggles would always be part of our life. One thing to remember is that God’s love would never change. And He would be the one leading in front of us. All we need to do is to follow Him step by step, and never let His hand go.
God Bless, and I hope I can share more things in the future =)
If the place is good, then I will survive.
If God’s supports, then I will succeed.
Hug her like you always do
Stay by her side no matter what
She needs someone to comfort her
She needs someone to love her
and that person is not me…
Talking about emotions and logic, especially in relationships between guys and girls, the term I usually understand is that
“… emotion will poison your logic …”
as a thing to watch out…
But today during a chat, another term is discussed which is
“… watch out when logic will poison your emotion…”
…
and I feel it’s quite true. I tend to forget the 2nd one and focus one the 1st one. Actually the truth is that both emotion and logic are there to balance each other out.
So watch out, sometimes your emotion is not the one to blame and watch out for what might be the poison to your decisions.
“Terima kasih buat mama yang sudah melahirkan aku 20 tahun yang lalu, dan sudah susah payah menanggung sejak 9 bulan sebelumnya.
Terima kasih juga buat papa yang sudah memberikan benih dan merawat aku sampai aku tumbuh besar seperti sekarang ini.
Terima kasih, I’m really grateful” - adapted from an sms.
It was actually the time when the name “wise protector” is given to a certain person, which is then passed on to the name of this blog.
People like to say things like:
“If I could turn back time I would do this….”
“If I could turn back time I would do that…”
“If I could turn back time I would rather do this than do that…”
“If I could turn back time I won’t choose this…”
and so on and so forth.
There are many reasons, however for them to saying those lines. Reasons such as “It would be much more better” or “Things won’t be as bad as now…”. Basically, Hope for a better life and Regret.
Whatever the reasons are, for me, I don’t think I would wish to turn back time and change things. Not that I don’t have any regret or not that I had never do any mistake, it’s just that in my opinion, there are things we know as consequences. It’s true that by choosing A instead of B, our life path might have been better. However sometimes we overlook the consequences of choice A in that it might have events that we might not like.
For example, if after I finished my high school I chose to go to stay in Indonesia rather than Singapore, my lifestyle would be different, I might be able to stay close with my old friends, my families, I might be able to drive better than I do now, etc. However, I might have never know those wonderful new friends in Singapore, I might not have the experience of studying abroad, I might have never fall in love with a person from other nationality, my spiritual life might not be as mature as I am now.
I always think it this way. In a parallel universe, there’s another Re (author) who chose A instead of B (the one I chose) living in the world which results as the choice he made. And that person might be saying “I wish I had chose B instead of A”.
Made me feels like going and visit all of those parallel universe, visiting all those countless worlds which resulted from all those countless choices that I ever had, wondering how I would be doing on those world. BUT still, I will stick to my believe that all the things that happened into my life, none are accident, and it’s the best that could happen to me. And thus, life live to the fullest, learn from the past, live the present and look forward to the future =)
Just swam after a long time I’ve never gone to a swimming pool.
I feel that it’s very nice. Considering the buoyancy force exerted into the body which is equal to the weight of water displaced by my body, the relative body weight is reduced. Therefore, the body feels lighter and burden are lifted up.
Since that before humans are born, they literally “lived” in water, it’s just natural that all baby can swim (clarification needed). Unfortunately as time goes, they grow older, they learned how to walk and learned how to live on land, they started to “forget” their experience under water. And here goes the money for all the swimming teacher.
Comment from Author: “Let’s go swimming!!!” =D
Tuesday 21st and Wednesday 22nd August 2007 was the 2nd and 3rd day of MAE Week. Here, we had a game where I took part as the organizer.
During one of the challenges that we pose to the contestants, we provide a food that (most ppl said) had a very strong smell that may even trigger some people to vomit.
Strangely, I didn’t find it that bad (or that strong). As in, it’s smelly, but it’s not THAT smelly.
Dunno, it came across my mind that maybe… my sense of smell is not that sensitive.
Or maybe… I just have a stronger mind? =p
lately, I’ve been thinking a lot of my own imperfectness. Not that I’ve only realized I’m imperfect. No no, I’ve known it all along that I’m just an imperfect human. But sadly lately I’ve been focusing too much on what I don’t have rather than what I have.
